1. Challenge Accepted!
This is the worst by far, in my opinion. At best, it’s a joke that delegitimizes our identity and makes us unsure of how to respond. At worst, it’s laden with rape culture and threatening language. “Corrective rape” is very real for members of the LGBT and asexual…
I’ve written here before about the very specific brand of sex-positivity I loathe, in which people seem bound and determined to press their sexuality on other people, insisting that sex is fantasti…
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A STANDS FOR ASEXUAL, AND ALSO FOR ITS SYNONYM, AWESOME
In a society that’s so sexualized, many people who identify as asexual can often find themselves feeling alone.
You need to keep talking about it. I would recommend that you each fill out a Want Will Won’t list and see how they line up - remember, it’s not about what you think your partner wants, it’s about what you want and where you boundaries are. Then compare your lists; if there are things that he really wants that are in your Won’t column, that’s a sign that you might not be the best fit for each other.
He needs to think about what he really wants - is it you? Or is sex more important to him? If you really matter to him, then you should be able to work it out so your relationship doesn’t involve sex, but stays strong. If it’s sex, then that’s a sign that you deserve better - you deserve someone who loves you as you are and respects your boundaries.